Wednesday, August 22, 2012

What's going on...

Hey Honies,

So I'm just writing to let you guys know what's been going on.

1st: I finally lost those last 10 pounds!!!!!!!!!!! Yay, go me. I am now back to prepregnancy weight although that hang is a little bothersome it's not as profound as before.




The 48 hour hollywood juice diet was ok. It did take off 8 pounds in two days. It tastes pretty good, like the Tang juice almost. I wasn't really hungry whenever I felt hunger about to sneak up I would drink the juice. The hardest part was watching other people eat because, I'm so greedy. My plans were to immediately go to a 3 day diet and then take two days off and on to a cabbage soup diet. However, I was so weak and protein deprived after the miracle diet so I figured since I had already bought the food for the diet, then I would just follow it but when I felt hungry EAT...

2nd: Emsley had to go to the doctor to get her 2 month check up and a set of shots...4 shots to be exact. I was so sad, but she took it like a champ. Actually I think I cried longer than she did. She has been kind of sluggish and sleeping a lot. I think she is sort of mad at me so she has had a little attitude. I have been sure to be EXTRA nice to her letting her sleep on me and giving her dozens of kissys.

3rd: So I never keep my phone charged... If you asked my family about me they would say it is next to impossible to get in contact with me. At any rate, when I finally charged my phone this evening. A text message dropped in my in box from my Muff and she was just letting me know that she had been trying to reach me (go figure) and that I was a great mother. That really touched me and almost made me cry, because since I've had Emsley seems like so much emphasis has been put on how much of a inadequate mother I am.

                   Strange really that I have a mommy blog and I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. But I can tell you one thing I love doing it.

Lastly: So school starts on the 29th and I feel like I'm not ready at all. I'm rather scared actually. Hampton has a reputation for being like "Uppity" people say the girls that go there are really prissy and dress a certain way. And I'm nothing like that I mean a pair of sweats with my hair pulled back in some tennis shoes would make me more than happy. I try to remember that I am a 22 year old woman and I need to kind of look up on myself. So I've gotten like some really nice dress shirts (that hide my tatt) and some pants. However, since my feet have grown from my pregnancy I need new shoes and I would like some new make up ( yes I wear make up, well at least I use to previously). At any rate I know I can't go in looking like who did it and why...my weight has been a big issue primarily for this reason. People my age in this program probably won't have kids so I don't want to look like I just dropped a 37 pound load. I just don't know how all of this makes me feel really.

Anyway...

Stay sweet Honies...

Monday, August 20, 2012

Do it BIG in life....

Wow guys it seems like its been so very long since I've blogged, I'm slipping I know. So, I want to say sorry and that I'm going to try to do better. Emsley is getting crazy big. Today she is 9 weeks old, time is flying by so fast... Orientation for school starts in 9 days and I'm super nervous. I have not been able to lose those last 7.8 pounds of baby weight, despite walking everyday for a hour for the last month, that's so depressing but I will get there... We hope.

Anyway, everyone always tell you from a baby that you can do any thing you want in life, that you can go as far as you want to go. And lately I've been overwhelmed with wanting to do SO much and wanting to go so far that it's actually my inspiration for this blog post.

So, first off you guys know I started this blog for several reasons: I wanted my pregnancy to go by quickly (quite funny now that I think of it), the mailman was pushing me to make money and I thought Adsense was gonna make me rich, and because I like people.  And as you All also know I'm horrible at writing. But for a short period of time I actually thought "hey I might be good at this thing" which was quickly shot down when I started applying for blogging position and they were like in so many words "has any one ever told you that you're not good at writing"

So I'm not going to be a famous blogger, I'm fine with that... I guess, but that doesn't stop me from liking it or wanting to do it. I'm starting to think that I should have majored in journalism, or communications. Because I love people, I just never realized it before. I've actually been thinking of giving myself an Honorary bachelors in communications,It's serious.

At any rate I want to do so much now, I want to start an online radio show, and a YouTube channel, and rap (yes as random as that sounds I said rap), and make blingy cases. But I think a big part of me is being scared of failing and being judged you know? That is part of the reason why I haven't turned this blog into ".com" or why I don't have a Facebook page for thejovialmom. I do have an instagram @7charities, follow me! Perhaps I'm still finding myself, perhaps.

I purposely digress, in a disparate attempt to kick these last 10 pounds just to be safe I'm on a 48 diet, I hope it works and don't judge me. I'm kinda really hungry. I'll tell you how that goes after 48 hours.

However, those are things I would like to do. I don't just want to talk about society or being a mom. I want to talk about everything. And I think when you do your own ish (my attempt at not saying shit) you can do what ever you want however you want.

So, today I'm going to go as far as I want and just do it BIG in life.

Alright Honey, stay sweet and dry because it is really pouring down in the 757.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Do My Hair Daddy!

First off why are black folks so concerned with hair?

I will tell you why I think it is such a big deal. Black people believe that they live in a white man's world and in that world they all have silky, long, and straight hair. And because this is ideal they try to get as close to this as possible. The mailman has beautiful hair it just lays so perfectly nothing knotty about it. When I became pregnant one of the concerns I had was that I would get great criticism if my daughter didn't have her father's hair. Hair to me is unimportant. I've been pretty much bald, I've been relaxed, Natural, bleached, dyed,braided, and weaved.



 I live in no one's world but my own! It was like the biggest deal ever. Some people  believe that it's a  biblical thing a woman should have hair. While, others' are just ignorant.

At any rate I digress. The day will one day come when Emsley's father will have to do her hair, it will happen. My father did my hair and whatever it'll happen.

Recently a photo went viral: 

How Amazingly Cute is this? This man doesn't care about how knotty, coarse, thick, rough, or kinky his daughter's hair. It's pictures like these, relationships like this that let me know that GOOD PEOPLE are still around. She will appreciate this later in life and know she is loved.

Stay SWEET HONIES!

E.Addie Update

I just added more new pictures which are actually old to Emsley's page check them out. I'm not sure that every time I update her page that I'll post so occasionally look out for her...

Love,

Evander, Emsley, and Charity

What is Wrong with Team USA...


Gabrielle Douglas vs
Ok, So I will probably get a lot of views just because of my title, but it's ok just take something from my post.

This post originally started off as being titled what is wrong with black people but because I was unable to finish it at the time, when I came back to it I had a change of heart or topic rather.

In the spirit of Olympic season I decided to pose a question: What is Wrong with Team USA? That's right I asked it.  A 16 year old little girl is in London competing in the name of Team USA and while her talent has not been completely downplayed in has been overshadowed by ridiculous bullshit like her hair and her mother's financial problems and her relationship with her father...

Who would stoop so low? Yea, that's right team USA. This is a child who is doing something positive with her life and to reward her we dig in her personal business and find the "MOST INTERESTING" thing to report. SHAME ON US.My other question is why aren't we hearing all of the skeletons out of our other gold medalist's closet?

Again, I reiterate we do this to a child?  At what point does the media decide this might be a "juicy" story but is it morally or ethically right? How can we expect more from and out of society when this is the way Team USA does some dumb shit like this.

At any rate, I'm eating my ice cream Party Cake by Turkey Hill that was on sell at Farm Fresh for $1.99 and it is delicious..Try it out guys.

Life is especially sour So STAY SWEET HONEY!