What's Yeast...

Yeast is when you need a few scratches to go to sleep. It's when the doctor SEE's you guaranteed not to be in ICU.... OK don't tell anyone but I suffered with yeast infections during my pregnancy what a big B.Never in my life had I had this problem and it kind of freaks you out just a little bit. The first thing you think (in the event you aren't creeping around on your man or maybe you still think it anyway) is "Imma Fuck him up!" Such an immature mind, such immature thinking. You walk around, like I will pay big money for a new coochie. But chill down it's normal and O so COMMON. SO, what's really up with the Yeast. First if you're having sex you need to stop for a while and give yourself a chance to completely get rid of the yeast infection. If you're pregnant, have you been tested for gestational diabetes? Yeast Infections are tell tell signs of gestational diabetes. And when I was eating crazy off my diet, I would suffer from one. Even if you have been tested and you aren't a diabetic limiting your sugar intake such as carbs can help you fight off that Yeast. This type of infection thrives off of carbs and sugar. Drinking water with lemon or lemon juice can also help as the water will flush you out and the acid in the lemon juice will help regulate the pH of your Va Jay JAY.  Which by the way your JAy JAy is Acidic that is on a potential Hydrogen Scale it is below a 6. Your Jay typically registers as a 4.3, if I'm not mistaken.The problem with a yeast infection is that you need to get rid of the bad bacteria, yeast, and replace it with the good bacteria, Lactobacillus, which is commonly found in yogurt. Wiping with brown apple cider vinegar mixed with water will help with the itching so will Aloe Vera gel. Applying plain yogurt will do almost the same thing as monist-at replenishing that bacillus. Eating yogurt also helps to regulate those bacterium, in theory. The theory is you eat the yogurt and as you complete digestion those bacterium travel from your anus to your JAY. Wow, who ever thought an asshole could be beneficial? And if you must have sex wrap it up, strap it up and... use a condom. If your husband, mailman, cutty buddy,boyfriend, friend with benefits, neighbor, best friend's man or whomever has a yeast infection and you guys are having sex nothing anyone suggests will help you because he will just keep passing it back to you. BACK, BACK, FORTH, and FORTH. He needs to get checked to ensure that he doesn't have a Yeast Infection as well, but if he does he just needs to be treated. SIMPLE.

It is too Early in the Morning

Ahhh.So Emsley and I fell asleep pretty early last night around 8:00 p.m., we both had a rough day. Well I woke around midnight from a horrible dream, I mean horrible (and she woke up right behind me considering she was laying in my stomach hurting my poor back.) I digress. Towards the end of last year my grandfather passed and it was a total shock! This was a man who at 74 years old still cut grass everyday. It was a big blow to our family. They don't make many men like him anymore. So the dream goes: My sister and I are spending the night at my grandparents house (something that I never do now) and Aint Margret and I are laying in the bed. The door bell rings, and it's my grandfather. My grandmother comes from her bedroom overjoyed and grabs his hand, they turn to walk away and my sister and I are crying our eyes out. My grandmother lets my granddaddy's hand go and comes over to us and almost in a fussing tone says "you girls stop crying you will be alright I know. Just stop that crying. I'm ready to go, I want to go, I want to be with Tom" From there the dream gets foggy but I remember being at a funeral home and My mother saying "She's going to look real nice" I remember holding Emsley and thinking "Who is going to take care of me when I'm sick, and go to farmfresh and bring us fried chicken, and I want Emsley to grow up and know who MAMA is." I remember looking around for Vander and him holding me and telling me that everything would be ok. And that's it... This dream really got me going so much so that I'm posting at 5:05 a.m. Emsley has hung with her mother for as long as she could. She went to sleep about 10 minutes ago. Mortality is something that few people like to think about or even accept. But it's real, every thing living will one day die. Invincible we are not in terms of death. I hate to think about dying. It's so final! What does this really mean: Maybe it is a tool of preparation that my grandmother is getting older and she is ready to be with my grandfather and to prepare my heart. Maybe its an indication that I need to get my life together (people always run to god when they are scared). Or maybe its a sign that Vander and I need to get ourselves together because we belong together and then if thats the case he needs the dream not me. I can't work something out with someone who isn't going to be sensitive to my opinions, feelings, and needs. Especially when I go over and beyond to do the same. At any rate.. That dream really shook me up so I had to post. Good Morning Honies I Hope you ALL have a Good Day Today!

E.Addie...

So, Finally I have posted pictures of my Nemie on her page I created on this blog. Just click on E. Addie and check out some of her pics. I hope all of you are enjoying your weekend. Also, I'll be adding an Advice page to my blog because I have of the answers in the world and why wouldn't you want to get advice from me (that's a joke) but at any rate I think it's an interesting idea...If it works out great, if it doesn't that's ok also. The "advice/ contact me" page right now is having some technical difficulties but when it's up and working I'll let you know.

Stay Sweet Honies, because Life is SOUR!

What to do, when you can't do anything right?

Some days I want to run away...I want to be a brand new person, with no responsibilities, no drama, just a spirit that's free to live life. It's not that my life really is all that bad, but who wants to constantly hear that they can't do ANYTHING right. Just because my way is not your way and your way is not my way, doesn't mean  that either of us does it the wrong way. At least that's the way it should be. Who wants to constantly be criticized about their actions. I don't feed my daughter right, I don't bond with her right, I don't have the right to have expectations for her relationships right, and I don't handle my relationships right.

I often view myself as an actively passive person but a passively abrupt person. The more I grow into myself the more that changes and the more bullshit I find myself in the midst of. I think I'm a little over tired of being uncomfortable, talked down to, fussed at, and pissed. I am a 22 year old woman, and now I belong to a child. I'm done taking whatever anyone feels like dishing to me. I'm done with being worried about making people mad or hurting someone elses' feelings. Those days are over! I'M WAY TOO OVER GROWN FOR THAT!
DEAR EMSLEY...how much do I love thee? More than anyone else in this world will ever know! You and I have a bond like no other, if only because you've heard what the beat of my heart sounds like from the inside. When you hear my voice, you look for me and when you sleep too long I look for you. It's unfair that my whole life has changed...I hate that more than anyone will ever know. I can't just hop in my car and go where ever I please. I can't just go to sleep because I'm tired. I can't ever for 18 years just do anything...My body has changed, my mind has changed, and even after 5 weeks I still feel at times pain... I feel alone in a world consumed with my mother, my sister, my nana, my mama, aunts, cousins, and your father. Because you are MY Responsibility. NO ONE Elses', MINE... And however unfair I feel that that is there are probably a good 4 people who would argue that I'm being irrationally ignorant.

Clearly I'm not happy, Clearly...but one day I will find my happiness, I am believing that!

It becomes strange when you've accepted the fact that your life is not going to be a certain way maybe someone has walked out of your life. You then began develop a new lifestyle, meet new people, try new things and then all of that changes. Someone walks back into your life but now you have to revisit the idea that your life will go back but at the same time it will forever change...

I love you Nemie and if I had to give up sleep, my life, my freedom to work, my freedom to hang with my friend, my freedom to just go anywhere without having to find a babysitter or calling to check if it's ok if I do whatever, my freedom altogether...Then, there is no one else I would have rather lost that for. You are truly my sunshine even when you're acting like a thunderstorm. I would walk fire coals for you, you are my heart!
(even though this whole section sounded like I was going in a different direction, lol)

But tell me what do you do, when you can't do anything right?

Keep Our water safe...

Keep Our water safe...Wait I got that wrong keep our children safe from water.

It's summer, and it's been extremely hot and one of the first things parents tend to do is take their children: to beaches, water parks, or pools. However, lately especially in the Hampton Roads area there have been too many water related accidents and deaths. It's an issue that when I was growing up either wasn't an issue or one that I was unaware of.

I was never afraid of water as a child but I always understood that I couldn't swim. I had swim lessons, I was unsuccessful. My mother never took me to the beach to play in the ocean. She took me to the pool, but never the ocean. If I a child cannot swim, if a person cannot swim then what would urge them to go test an OCEAN out with tides and junk? Doesn't make sense to me. I'm not calling it wrong, I'm just saying it's strange.

At any rate, some of the most beneficial things you can do for your child is to teach them the dangers of playing around water (especially if they don't know how to swim) and enrolling them in swim lessons. It's that simple. If you have children not taking them to the beach to swim in the ocean at night, and checking the tides and not taking them if they're going to be high that day, being attentive when your child is around any body of water is always a good idea.

I've always taken care of children, dating back to when my sister was born, from there I worked in several daycares and even been a private nanny for several families and water safety is always something I was well aware of. Make sure you're talking to your sitters and nannies. Make sure they know CPR, proper water safety and any protocols or plans of action that you would like your sitter to take. For instance, when I nannied for one family I would inform the children we were going to get in the pool, they had to put on their bathing suits, grab the towels and wait for me by the gate to the pool, then they would grab the life jackets, I would fasten the belts, they could then enter the pool counting each step until they reached the bottom. They did this the same exact way every single time they got in the pool. Their parents had a routine in place.

So, teach your churn not to be afraid of the water just be safe with it.

Life is Sour so Stay Sweet HONIES!

Get To Know Me Tag...

Hi Honies,

I'm always excited when I find new blogs, especially beauty ones they give me so much inspiration. So, I was interested in getting some box braids and googled some hair styles when I stumbled upon a new blog. ColourMeSunshine,blogspot.com...It's really interesting. I've not had a chance to read All the posts as I am still a mother in case you've forgotten. But, you guys should check it out. And I don't know if you guys know or not, I'm not sure that I've mentioned that my hair is natural (meaning I have no relaxer), so if you know of any blogs that are targeted to natural hair people leave me a post and let me know. I'm always up for checking out some good blogs. At any rate there was a get to know me tag, that particular day I was reading so I decided to participate. Copy and do the same if you have a blog and post a link in the comment box so I and others can check it out... That's all Honies...



1. Are you named after anyone? 
No, However I was named Charity because of the love my father had for my mother.
2. When was the last time you cried?
 A few days ago, being a mother is difficult. I don't know how others' relationship with their parents are but my hopes for Emsley is that her mother AND HER FATHER play equally important and supportive involvement in ALL aspects of her life!
3. Do you have kids?    
 Yes I have Nemie
4. If you were another person, would you be friends with yourself?
Of Course! I'm pretty much Amazing
5. Do you use sarcasm a lot
No not too much but I definitely use it
6. Will you ever bungee-jump? 
I'm not sure...depends
7. What's your favorite cereal? 
Let me think I like swirls although, I don't think they're called that anymore anyway the cinnabun cereal and I love Special K
8. What's the first thing you notice about people?  
I notice how people carry themselves. If they are quiet or loud, if they talk alot, if they fiddling around, speaking foolishly...I try to crack they're character
9. What is your eye color? 
Dark brown.
10. Scary movie or happy endings? 
I'm a chicken so Happy Endings
11. Favorite smells? 
I like the smell of fresh cut grass it reminds me of my grandfather. I like Ralph Lauren Style. And the smell of the mailman. I like the smell of thanksgiving dinner being prepared
12. Summer or winter? 
Winter...The smells, holidays,and fashions
13. Computer or television?
Both, Computer because I love you guys and my email. But T.V. because I love to have the T.V. on while I blog and to watch my shows the computer screen most times hurts my eyes so I like to watch my shows on the tube.
14. What's the furthest you've even been from home? 
Florida..
15. Do you have any special talents?
If I do they are undiscovered
16. Where were you born? 
Onslow County (Camp Lejeune) North Carolina
17. What are your hobbies? 
Blogging, reading blogs, reading books,exercising, watching youtube videos, and taking care of Emsley (but that's not by choice), and eating
18. Do you have any pets? 
Yes a Husky, Lucky
19. Favorite movie? 
Movies. Mona Lisa Smile, Stepmom, Rocky V, Expendables
20. Do you have any siblings? 
A baby sister. Aint Margret
21. What do you want to be when you grow up? 
I want to be someone great. Someone who matters and changes the world. I want to be a Star. If not a Pharmacist and a great mother.

Alrighty, now you guys can tag and drop a comment with the link so myself and others can check it out!

So, Sorry...

Okay, guys I know I've posted today than I ever do...but I'm so excited that I have some new plans in the works for my blog and those plans require me to take a look at the pages I created and since I rarely have time to post on the home page it didn't make sense to have all of those other pages. If you are a loyal fan/ follower/ My Honey, then you've probably already seen these posts. So that 's the Mary J. Blige on all these posts today. Again, I am so excited to do so major upgrades and changes. Always remember, you can leave me comments I love to read them they make me happy! Refer me to a friend or keep up with me on instagram: 7charities....

Stay Sweet Honey...because life is SOUR.

GESTATIONAL DIABETES:WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT

Gestational Diabetes:What it's All About

When I was tested at 28 weeks for blood sugars and the results came back elevated I was devasted. I didn't know what to think. I was upset, confused, and in total shock. So what I've taken the liberty of doing is compling a bunch of important information to help you understand and deal with gestational diabetes.
Gestational Diabetes can affect any pregnant woman, it is not dependent on her having diabetes prior to pregnancy. The exact cause of it is unknown but it is believed that the placenta prevents insulin from doing it's job. Without enough insulin, glucose can't leave the blood and convert to energy. Glucose then builds up in the blood stream and blood sugars spike.
Baby's with mothers who have gestational diabetes don't tend to be born with birth defects. However, your baby can aquire high glucose levels, which in turn can give you a big baby. Babies can also suffer damage to their shoulders during birth, have very low blood glucose levels and are also at a high risk for breathing problems. They are also at risk for obesity and may become adults who are high risk for diabetes. Studies have not been conclusive to prove that diabetes could cause miscarriage or pre-term labor.  Women with gestational Diabetes are considered high risk.
Mothers who have gestational diabetes are normally put on a diet to help regulate blood sugars. They also have to test blood to monitor glucose levels 4 times a day and in extreme cases mothers may have to inject themselves with insulin. Glucose levels of mothers with gestational diabetes should generally stay under 120.
So those were the facts here's what I found...
Walking does wonders, if you could walk 30 minutes each day you could help lower those blood sugars by burning up some energy. Beverages were a big deal for me. Although, I tried my best to stay away from sodas and generally did.Fruit juices were indeed my down fall. Crystal light, Carbonated flavored waters, and sugar free singles that you deposit in bottle waters saved my life. I craved margaritas from the very beginning of my pregnancy and crushed ice with the margarita flavored crystal light was amazing. Document what you eat that way you know what is messing you up and what spikes your sugar. The diet was difficult because I was constantly on the go. Carrying a lunch box was helpful but also being open about what I liked to eat and customizing it to my diet was challenging. Ordering fast food became easy. I would get a burger combo, take off one slice of bread order fruit or salad in place of the fries and get either a diet soda or an unsweetened tea and add splenda. For breakfast a piece of toast with P-nut butter, a boiled egg and a slice of bacon was great. Any variation of that is what I usually stuck with. I also ate whole grain waffles instead of the slice of bread. Milk and fruit were items that my diet advised me to stay away from for breakfast. For my morning snack, I would eat the cheese crackers (Nabs) or graham crackers and some turkey. For lunch I would eat salads with fruit. For afternoon snacks goldfish snacks, rice cakes, or laughing cow cheese with crackers. Dinner would normally be a serving of broccoli, bbq chicken, and maybe some whole grain rice. There's a ton of sugar free snacks and things out there, that could help you out. Keep lunch meat and crackers on hand. Cucumbers and ranch and celery. Those are the things that will save you or at least saved me and Oh yea crystal light is sent from heaven.

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Reality...What's Yours?

Reality, why is it that people are so consumed with reality? I mean reality television has completely taken over. It doesn't matter if it is reality with famous people or reality with common people it's exciting. Even at times when we know or may question if it is truly real. It is important to first note that reality is not the same across the board. My reality is different from yours and John's and Mary's and so forth. It's interesting to see how someone else is living, what their reality is. Reality is almost like therapy to see how people handle different situations and to become engulfed in someone else's problems that for a moment you are able to relieve yourself of your own. For some people it sets a standard of how they should be living their life and things that they should be doing. Reality is exciting because it's not our own. We feel like we can connect with people feel what they feel and how they feel. Some people blog anonymously, but I choose to blog whole heartily. So that people can connect with me. feel my thoughts, reactions, my struggles, heartache, my life. Not because I'm anyone special but because I have something to say and I'm courageous enough to say it all un-anonymous, regardless if anyone ever lays eyes on it. I think Reality is good but also it's not really factual it's what one chooses to make it. What is your Reality?

Thank You Portsmouth Rescue Squad!

Hello Honies (because you ALL are my honies), I come to you frustrated, sleepy and exhausted! This morning was quite the morning. A Very Early morning...

So... Ems was up at 12:00 this morning for a routine feeding and diaper change, all very normal, and normally she falls back to sleep. However, she stayed awake, not whining or anything just looking around...Her father and I were goofing around so she was soaking it all in.

At around 2:00 a.m. she started nibbling her fingers and searching for the boob...So the first option I give her, because children need options, is her passie. We fought with that a few times, she won and spit it out. So, I'm thinking well she never fell asleep maybe she's still hungry I'll fix her 3 more ounces of milk. That is on top of the 5 ounces that she had at 12.

I'm feeding her and all of a sudden she vomits and I mean everywhere...I freak out she's not coughing, not making any sounds, and her eyes are rolling in the back of her head. I quickly pick her up holding her stomach in my hands and I'm frantic. The mailman is asking me do I know CPR and I'm just like call 911, call 911.

My logic behind that is I don't know if my daughter is breathing or not and if I wait until I can tell and she's not breathing then I've lost lets say 3 minutes. I want to make sure that if my daugher isn't breathing I'm responding as fast as possible, because that's fighting the time of brain damage.

By the time the abulance arrives. Emsley has settled down she's breathing, and calm. Really there was no need for the rescue squad to come and although I was very shaken up and nervous. I was in fact a little embarrassed and scared.

I have dealt with children since I was about 16 years old, I know CPR and the works. I've kept children safe during seizures and all sorts of things, but it's something about MY CHILD that just everything goes out the window and instead of thinking, I'm reacting...I've struggled with my maternal feelings for a while but I love my daughter she is the most precious thing in my life. If something happens to her I can't get a new her and that's scarry. At any rate I flipped out....

The Portsmouth Rescue Squad in 23701 was AMAZING. They were understanding and they didn't judge us. They understood completely that it was our first child and that we were super scared. They shared personal experiences with us and even gave us some advice.

All and all Emsley is well, I'm recovering and that's about it...Until next time

Blogging is Like

Blogging is an awkward experience. It's like walking into a empty room. At first you're nervous and uncertain, but then you start talking about everything that's on your mind. You don't know what to say, how to say it, if anyone will read it, or if anyone will even care. The most frightening part of this experience is failing. To have no one care about what you say, the issues you write about. I'm not a great writer. Actually, I'm a horrible writer and a bad orator. When I was younger I wanted to be an attorney but as I got older, I came to the realization that I was not a good writer. Also, it would have made college hell if I had to write elaborate papers all 4 years through. As I posted before, I write because it's my right. Perhaps I'm a creative writer. Perhaps not. Perhaps no one will ever read this and nothing that I ever have to say will ever even matter. However, I will commit to this. I will commit my time and efforts at writing about things that I believe are important. In life if we focus on doing things on the basis of success than how far in life will we ever get? If Steve Jobs had only set out to succeed at making incredible technology, would he ever have set out to do it. What youth in society should strive to do is give all of their efforts to an idea, the best they have to give, to it. At the end, if they have succeeded they have gained. Yet, if they have failed they have gained even more. If no one ever reads or subscribes to this blog. I still will have succeeded at committing myself to an idea of dedication. I can't fail! It's simply not an option. I will write on this blog until, I have nothing left to say.

Be Grateful...

Yesterday, I was complaining about the "hurt" I've experienced with my father. Today I am grateful. As I lay daughter in my arm, blogging on my cell phone app, watching ABC's extreme make-over weight lost edition, I am grateful! Nyla, has allowed her life, her whole being actually to be consumed by the hurt of never knowing who her father is. In efforts to help her the producers of the show "find" her father. He has passed. He committed suicide in 2010. We both break down in tears. How miniscule, she has just made my Bitch fit feel? Very. Today I am grateful, for I know my father, I could pick up the phone and hear his voice right now. I have a beautiful daughter. A supportive mailman. I'm alive and well. I may not be thin, my hair may not be long, my skin may not be clear. In fact I am fat, I have cellulite, a flabby belly, bad skin, knotty hair, a big nose, and tons of stretch marks...but I am grateful. Because for every negative in my life I have at least 3 positives. We take for granted our situations in life, we highlight the negative and pass over the positive. I challenge you to love life, your life no matter how screwed up or messed up it is. Be Grateful for something never wake up one day on this earth and not find a reason or something to be Grateful for, even if its just the air you're breathing. I am grateful for my stroller I got to push it around today. Something I've been wanting to do since I got it...and I bought 50 shades of grey.